Bender: Where Gender-Fluid Dating Begins
Find your match, wherever you are. Stylish. Inclusive. 100% Ad-Free.
Welcome to Bender – The Premier Gender-Fluid Dating App
Whether you’re looking for friendship, fun, or something more, Bender helps you connect with like-minded individuals near you — or across the globe. It’s designed by LGBTQ+ people, for LGBTQ+ people.
Why “Bender”? Like the word queer, we’ve proudly reclaimed Bender. It’s playful, defiant, and full of love – just like our community.
Premium Features – Only £10/month
- ✅ Live Location Matching on Google Maps
- ✅ Browse 600+ potential matches by distance
- ✅ Smart profile previews in grid view
- ✅ Advanced filters for faster matching
- ✅ Bender Travel – match before you land
- ✅ Private & public photo sharing
- ✅ See who viewed or favourited you
- ✅ “Seal of Approval” trust feature
- ✅ Full-featured, real-time chat
Safety & Privacy
- 🛡️ Your data is never shared
- 🛡️ Secure signup and verified profiles
- 🛡️ Report and block tools built-in
- 🛡️ Private photos stay private
- 🛡️ All public images reviewed by our team
- 🛡️ Strictly for ages 18 and up
Be Bold. Be Seen. Be Fluid.


Community Love
“Finally, a dating app that actually feels like it gets me.” – Jamie (they/them)
“I met my partner within a week. Thank you, Bender!” – Alex (he/him)
Need Help?
Check out our Safety and Compliance, Acceptable Use Policy, or Data Retention Policy. We’re here for you 24/7.